Stan Dale on Relationship – Happy Birthday Stan!

December 20th would have been my late friend and mentor, Stan Dale’s, 82nd birthday. Happy Birthday Stan! You are missed and you are loved.

Stan was my first true living spiritual teacher, though he would not have thought of himself in that way. Stan simply loved and showed others how to do the same. He taught them how to love themselves, to love others and to love humanity.

Stan founded The Human Awareness Institute (HAI) together with his late wife Helen Dale, in the late1960’s. HAI’s motto is “Creating A World Where Everyone Wins.” Stan had a vision of changing the world one person at a time. He left a legacy of love and healing in his wake. Thousands of individuals were better off for having known him and for having participated in his Love, Intimacy and Sexuality Workshops that are now held globally.

Stan Dale was ahead of the curve and way ahead of his time. I only wish he could be with us today to see how like-minded souls such as ourselves are coming together globally via the internet to help make his dreams come true.

The following is a short video with Stan Dale as he was talking to a group about the nature of relationships. That wonderful soothing voice still lives in my head and frequently reminds me of the lessons I learned from this master of love.

By the way, if you are old enough to remember “The Shadow” and “The Lone Ranger,” you will probably recognize Stan’s voice. He was the one who would say “Who knows what evil lurks in the hearts of men….”

Love you Stan. Like a guardian angel, I know you are with me all-ways!

Inner Guidance or Unsolicited Advice?

Television and other media inform us that we need to conform to the societal norm to be accepted, that we smell bad, that our size and shape are wrong, that we have physical or mental conditions that require prescription medication, that we need help to function sexually, and that we cannot possibly be capable of making our own decisions or being responsible for our own actions.


New laws are being created daily to handle many of those issues on our behalf.

Critical thinking is no longer encouraged…or in some sectors, even allowed. After all, we might be a danger to ourselves and others if we use the minds gifted to us by God.

Where am I going with this, you might ask?

My point is that other-directed individuals relinquish their power to perceived authorities and become followers. They unknowingly give up their birthrights: the freedom to think for themselves, live from their hearts, find joy in their passion, and express their creativity and individuality or unique sense of self. Often, there is a blind acceptance that others know better than they do what’s right for them. Often the reason for that is that they have not clearly defined themselves and their wants, needs and desires.

Conversely, inner-directed individuals align their energy directly with Source, with their Higher Self and the divinity within. These individuals are the pioneers, the creators, the inventors, and the leaders in their field. They make decisions about their lives based on the knowledge, wisdom and guidance they receive directly from God…the Universe…Source.

Inner-directed people look for the truth that resonates with their gut level intuition and the vibrations that cause their heart to sing.They do not accept something as true or factual without first checking it out with how it makes them feel. If it doesn’t feel good, comfortable and right for them…if they cannot honestly say yes to it…then it’s not their truth. These individuals embody the qualities of a Spiritual Entrepreneur.

How do we discover and know our own truth?

Speaking for myself, it’s been a lifetime process. Just when I think that I know all that there is to know about the subject of me, something new pops up. It might be an old issue that I thought had been resolved presents itself with a new twist. And, oddly enough, most of these issues take their roots in childhood, even while we are still in the womb, and in some cases a previous/parallel lifetime.

As an adopted child, I’ve experienced a lot of deep inner work with issues such as abandonment, worthiness and belonging (where do I fit in). Oddly enough, due to some major life changes, these issues have recently resurfaced for me again. The deeper I go into my own inner work, the more empathy I have for others who are going through similar situations. As spiritual leader and author, Ram Dass said in his 1977 book with Steve Levine, it’s “Grist for the Mill.” I’ve often thought of it as grist for the healer’s/teacher’s/writer’s mill. So, for myself, the inner work I do has implications well beyond my own personal growth. By healing myself, I am more available and clear when I am guiding others.

Once while experiencing a hypnotic regression back into childhood, I found myself floating in my natural mother’s womb. I could hear and feel everything that she was experiencing. As a result I experienced extreme empathy for my mother as she endured violent verbal abuse from her own father, my natural grandfather. From his old-country (Northern European) religious moralistic perspective, he saw her as a demon child. He pushed her around and told her she was worthless, a disgrace. He then said she was a bitch and a whore, then shoved her out the door onto the street to fend for herself at 16, in the middle of World War II.

I felt my mother’s extreme pain and hopelessness, and still can. As a teenager in times when women had few rights or recourse, she was forced to give birth to me in a home for unwed mothers. As she had no family to turn to, no resources, she was also forced to give me up for adoption at four days of age. Unfortunately, we never had the chance to bond.

I was told that after my birth she became despondent, and likely anorexic, as she died of cirrhosis of the liver due to malnutrition at age 21. I discovered the cause of death many years later when I recalled seeing her name on my original birth certificate (later destroyed in a house fire) and searched for her death certificate in the county records. It matched what I’d been told.

From before birth, I was already feeling compassion for people in this lifetime. I knew as a child that I came here to do something special. However, I didn’t know that I was destined for a life overflowing with “Grist for the Mill.” The adventures and people I have encountered on my journey have served me well. In truth, I have no regrets. Each experience is a swatch of fabric from which I have fashioned and happily wear my coat of many colors.

Throughout my years of tasting much of what life has had to offer, I learned to seek guidance when I found myself in a situation too difficult or painful to handle on my own. I’ve received professional guidance in workshops and private sessions from counselors, therapists, ministers, coaches, body workers, energy healers and other practitioners. They have come from a variety of disciplines and ethnic, religious and spiritual backgrounds. I have always been guided to the perfect professional with the ideal skills to match my needs at the time.

Connecting with Source and Your Own Inner Guidance

There is no amount of education that can replace life experience. Some things we simply cannot get at a deep level simply by listening to lectures or reading about them in books. For instance, God…the Creator. How do we come to understand God? By knowing God.

As East Indian guru, author and world teacher, Paramahansa Yogananda, told his disciples, “prove to yourself that God exists.” This is something that can only be learned through experience. By silencing the mind, going within, and connecting with Source you can find and know God for yourself. This is the practice and experience known as meditation.

By silencing the mind through yoga and breathing, the yogi is able to relax into a state of receptivity. In this state, the answers are revealed, the truth we seek that comes directly from God. Almost anyone can do this with guidance and practice. In this busy world of doing, to sit in stillness and listen seems foreign and counter-intuitive, yet it is one of the most profoundly intuitive gifts we can give ourselves…some time with our Creator. As Brother Lawrence’s book title suggests, “Practicing the presence of God.”

There are many ways to connect with Source, with Spirit. Meditation is just one of them. However, all methods, including prayer, work best when we quiet our minds and listen in silence to receive our own messages from the Creator…from God.

Receiving Support and Learning How to Reach Your Inner Wisdom

Just as there are many ways to connect with Source, there is a wide variety of methods for learning how to connect with your Higher Self, the Divine within. Additionally, their are many teachers available to guide you through a plethora of processes to help you achieve your objectives as a Spiritual Entrepreneur.

You, as a client, are always in charge of your process. When selecting a coach, a counselor and/or a spiritual guide, be sure to address up front any questions or concerns. You may want to clarify that their values resonate with your personal philosophy. You will probably find most of your answers by checking out their websites and reading through their biographies, their offerings and testimonials.

If you are looking for someone to guide you through the process of becoming a Spiritual Entrepreneur, please check out my Offerings. I’ll be happy to help you discover your passion, envision your business, and create the life of your dreams. I’m also available to help those who are already in business to shift the energy from the old paradigm to a 21st Century heart centered co-creative focus.

I’ll soon be adding a 90 day quick start and a 6 month mentoring program specifically designed to help you to give birth to your vision in a way that feels easy, effortless, exciting, energizing and rewarding.

Boxes, Labels and Comfort Zones

                                                                Have you ever noticed that societal boxes and labels are designed to keep people in their comfort zone? And unwittingly, many people succumb to this state of mental inertia…spiritual standstill…prison for the soul. Trained from birth, they assume the position in life that others dictate to them in their relationships, education, careers, social behaviors, and even in what they do with their leisure time.

So what is a comfort zone?

According to definition, a comfort zone is an anxiety neutral seemingly risk free familiar behavioral state in which a person operates their life from a limited set of behaviors and a steady level of performance. Inside the comfort zone, there is an unfounded sense of security while operating within certain conditioned mental boundaries.

The ‘limited set of behaviors’ come partially from agreed upon societal labels with regard to race, color, religion, politics, nationality, philosophy, intelligence, education, age, marital status, etc. Add to that a plethora of value judgments placed on us by parents, teachers, friends, and perceived authorities. Combine these concepts together with our agreement to assume these parameters, these values, qualities and labels for ourselves and our belief systems are formed.

To protect who and what we believe to be ourselves, our physical bodies and our borrowed values and beliefs, we build boxes around ourselves to contain all those things that we think define us. As self-jailers, we lock ourselves into those externally imposed definitions of self, the roles that we play, and lead our mundane lives.

How I created my own label-free comfort outside the box

As a product of the 1940s and 50s, I spent much of my younger adulthood living the predefined roles of daughter, wife and mother. Yet, I did it my way because I had a strong sense of self and was never comfortable with the traditional roles and expectations projected on me. For that matter, I’ve never liked tradition.

Prior to my first marriage, at the ripe old age of 18 1/2, I became a map draftsman, a job traditionally held by men. It was not easy being the only woman playing a man’s role in a male dominated working environment, but the experience served me well. I learned valuable lessons in setting boundaries, standing up for myself and my rights, being accepted for my skills and intelligence while at the same time maintaining my femininity and being respected despite being young and female.

My first major in college was Elementary Education, one of the few fields available to women at that time. I quickly found it wasn’t for me and changed my major to Speech Pathology. When that field shifted from a psychological to a medical model, I opted to change to Recreation Therapy and Counseling Psychology. Then my college career was cut short by duties to family as my father was dying, and later I became a mother to my son.

When I returned to school many years later, I completed my BA in an independent study program where I created my own major – Learning Facilitation (Learning How to Learn). Just prior to graduation, I’d also been certified as a hypnotherapist. I finally felt a sense of completion and I knew I had defined myself outside the system. It felt really good.

I’ve never regretted stepping outside the box, though I do believe I was born that way. I felt compelled to be true to myself and my nature, and to not give into others’ visions for my life. That said, I do admit to trying out a few suggestions others convinced me I’d be good at, like being a Realtor. Although I was good at many things, I quickly discovered I am only happy when the work I do is creative, comes from love and passion, and resonates with my heart and soul. Sometimes to discover what we do want, it’s necessary to find out what we don’t want…like kissing a lot of toads before the prince appears. Trust me, I’ve had my share of toads and princes too, but that’s a story for another day.

Be a joyful Spiritual Entrepreneur…outside the box and label-free

Many people have settled for living inside their boxes and haven’t a clue why they don’t feel happy and fulfilled. When they see others living lives they wish they had, they attribute it to good fortune, a big break, or even good genes. When they think of doing what they believe they want and love, the fear of taking risks raises its ugly head and they start beating themselves with thoughts that they aren’t good enough, smart enough, young enough, or brave enough to follow their hearts.

Then the fears and worries about what others might say has them slink back into their boxes and pull the flaps shut. Fear of failure, fear of success, fear of every kind keeps the labels in place and once again they convince themselves that this is what life is all about.

What they don’t know is that their freedom is only a thought away, that highly successful persons routinely step outside their comfort zones in order to achieve their goals. The increased level of anxiety engendered in taking a risk actually enhances the level of concentration and focus. This is a phenomenon known as an Optimal Performance Zone. Since fear and excitement produce very similar chemical reactions in the body, it’s important to develop a positive attitude toward risk and change.

Before stepping outside of the comfort zone, it’s important for one’s thoughts, beliefs and behaviors to be congruent and in alignment with how they wish to show up in the world.  Anyone desiring to be a Spiritual Entrepreneur would be wise to seek guidance from a counselor or coach. To see if being a Spiritual Entrepreneur is right for you, you might wish to take the quizzes recommended in my prior post, Type Casting for Spiritual Entrepreneurs.

If you are looking for someone to guide you through the process of becoming a Spiritual Entrepreneur, please check out my Offerings. I’ll be happy to help you discover your passion, envision your business, and create the life of your dreams. I’m also available to help those who are already in business to shift the energy from the old paradigm to a 21st Century heart centered co-creative focus.

I’ll soon be adding a 90 day quick start and a 6 month mentoring program specifically designed to help you to give birth to your vision in a way that feels easy, effortless, exciting, energizing and rewarding.



Type Casting for Spiritual Entrepreneurs

                                                                                    Have you ever felt like you were following a vision others couldn’t see, that you didn’t fit in, and weren’t seen, heard, understood or appreciated? Do you resent being put in a box, labeled and treated like one of the masses? Would you like to gain verification, clarification and validation for those feelings? Chances are you are a visionary, an entrepreneurial type who doesn’t fit in to the societal norm. The great news is that you can stop hiding out and playing the Lone Ranger, because YOUR TIME TO SHINE IS NOW!

Where Do You Belong? Are you a TypeE, ENFP or INFP, a bit of each or somewhere in between?

The TypeE Personality

According to my friend Alex Giorgio, who discovered the TypeE personality, an estimated 5 to 10 percent of the world’s population loves living on the edge of life. They thrive on a wide variety of experiences and enthusiastically pursue what they love with passion, creativity and velocity. When engaged, their energy seems limitless and their thirst for adventure and new frontiers insatiable.They are visionaries with a strong desire to shape the world and to make it a better place for all, whether in their local communities or globally. They are most happy when living, loving and playing at the leading edge of possibility.

Type Es are often highly creative visionaries and tend to be entrepreneurs. Creativity can take the form of artist, entertainer, scientist, or even a CEO. If you are highly creative, or if you consider yourself energetic, a risk taker or a self starter, chances are you have a TypeE personality.

There are three categories to the Type E Personality

  1. The Type E Manager (practical visionary)
  2. The Type E Mystic (out of the box visionary/head in the clouds)
  3. The Type E Translator (acts as a bilingual mediator between the Manager and Mystic).

To find your type, take the TypeE Quiz.

Another useful test is theMyers-Briggs Personality Profile or Jung Typology Test™.

Many entrepreneurial TypeEs also fit into the categories, ENFP or INFP, as briefly described below.

ENFP – Extraverted iNtuitive Feeling Perceiving

  • Primary mode of living is focused externally taking things in via intuition
  • Warm, enthusiastic people, typically very bright and full of potential
  • Good at an unusually broad range of skills and talents
  • Project-oriented and do things that fit with their values
  • Need time alone to focus on following through with their projects
  • Genuinely warm and interested in people and place great importance on inter-personal relationships
  • Details of everyday life are seen as trivial drudgery
  • Good communication skills making it easy for them to get what they want
  • Best matched with individuals who are comfortable with change and new experience
  • Have an amazing ability to intuitively perceive the truth about a person or situation
  • Basically happy unless confined to strict schedules and mundane tasks, like flexibility
  • Productive entrepreneurs when excited about a project
  • Need to be independent, and resist being controlled or labelled and want the same for others
  • Charming, ingenuous, risk-taking, sensitive, people-oriented

  INFP – Introverted iNtuitive Feeling Perceiving

  • Primarily focused internally and deal with things according to how they feel about them
  • Focused on making the world a better place for people and love working for a cause
  • Highly intuitive about people and search for truth and meaning
  • Generally thoughtful and considerate, INFPs are good listeners and put people at ease
  • Do not like conflict, and go to great lengths to avoid it
  • Place little importance on who is right and who is wrong
  • They don’t want to feel badly – a trait that makes them good at mediating or problem solving
  • Flexible and laid-back, until one of their values is violated, then they will aggressively defend
  • Unaware of mundane details of life maintenance
  • Do not like to deal with hard facts and logic and do not use or understand impersonal judgment
  • Very high standards and are perfectionists…can cause control or conflict in group situations
  • Usually talented feeling oriented writers who enjoy working for the public good
  • Can accomplish great and wonderful things and rarely give themselves credit

Take the Jung Typology Test™  and see which category best fits how you present yourself to the world.

I hope that these tests have been useful in helping you to determine whether or not to pursue life as a Spiritual Entrepreneur. If you find that you “fit the profile” and want to create your own business, I highly recommend that you spend about six months immersing yourself in learning from the experts in sales and marketing, business organization and management, and learning how to embody an entrepreneurial mindset. I also suggest that you develop relationships with mentors who have been successful in your specific field of endeavor.

There are many things to consider when starting and operating a business that creative types often find counter to their nature. Having started several businesses myself, I recognize the need for guidance as it can save time and money and also prevent needless mistakes.

Prior to opening my own used bookstore and espresso bar, I apprenticed myself to a friend who owned a place similar to the one I was planning to open in another city. I spent six months learning everything my mentor could teach me about running such a business. I asked questions about everything and learned the inner workings…the shortcuts, tips and tricks…the stuff books don’t tell you about running a business first hand. The education I received more than offset the many hours each week that I volunteered to help my friend with his store.

I also took classes and seminars in running an espresso bar and everything there is to know about being a bookseller from the basics to buying and selling rare books and collectible media. I’m a life-long learner and have always felt that self education has more value than any of the degrees or certificates that hang on my wall. Hands on learning is even better and I prefer experiential workshops as opposed to lecture format seminars.

If you are looking for someone to guide you through the process of becoming a Spiritual Entrepreneur, please check out my Offerings. I’ll be happy to help you discover your passion, envision your business, and create the life of your dreams. I’m also available to help those who are already in business to shift the energy from the old paradigm to a 21st Century heart centered co-creative focus.

I’ll soon be adding a 90 day quick start and a 6 month mentoring program specifically designed to help you to give birth to your vision in a way that feels easy, effortless, exciting, energizing and rewarding.

To Thine Own Self Be True

When I was a very young girl, my father read to me every night before bedtime. He taught me how to memorize and recite poetry, and shared with me his favorite quotes and snippets of wisdom. By the time I reached the age of reason, I’d already been exposed to every fairly tale, children’s story and nursery rhyme available in books at the time. He’d even read me selections from Shakespeare and impressed upon my young mind the importance of honoring my heart and my own nature, my creativity and passion, my values and truth. It was the greatest gift any father could give his daughter…a legacy that has served me throughout my life.

Dad always treated me as a holistic human being with love, respect, compassion and understanding. He was my first spiritual teacher, and until recently, one of the few people who connected with me deeply at the level of heart and soul. His relationship with God was strong and his intelligence keen.

As an adopted child, I was most grateful to have an advocate in the world. As my guide, mentor and parent, he was there to protect and defend me until I developed the strength of character to take care of myself in the world. My adopted mother was a fearful and controlling woman. Had it not been for Dad, I’d likely have turned out to be as neurotic and emotionally immature as she was. Because of his guidance, I was able to stand up to her unreasonable demands and punishment oriented parenting and stay in my truth.

One of my earliest recollections is a time when I was sitting in my junior chair (a wooden high chair with the tray removed so I could sit at the dining table). I was about 3 1/2 years old and though I don’t recall the specifics of my mother’s issue with me, I do recall the feelings.

She was demanding that I confess to, and apologize for, something that I knew I hadn’t done. I refused to do her bidding. Even at that young age, I knew I was telling the truth and that by apologizing, I would be telling a lie. She threatened to keep me home and not allow me to go with my father on his Saturday errands in town. She knew that this was the greatest punishment she could administer as Saturdays with my father were the highlight of my week.

I can still see in my mind the incredulous look on her angry red face. It was an expression I witnessed many times throughout my growing up years when mother grabbed a wooden coat hanger, yard stick or hair brush and spanked me to justify the anger she carried inside. I rarely did anything to justify punishment, and certainly not the kind she delivered.

The bottom line was that my mother didn’t trust me and somehow resented my relationship with my father, her husband. Even as a child, I knew that the reasons behind her anger were not about me. And thanks to my father’s teachings, I did not embody her anger, shame or guilt.

As I grew older, I realized that her behavior was the result of not trusting herself. The torment she felt came from what she herself had done when she was young. I was the “whipping boy” to assuage her guilt, though I didn’t know the reasons behind this until many years later…but that’s another story. My deepest sadness around my mother is that I cannot recall a time when she held me or hugged me with love. I only recall her touching me in anger.

I am grateful to have been blessed with a father who loved me and encouraged me to be true to myself. Throughout the years he was my rock until his untimely passing at 60 years of age when I was only 21. I shall always remember his gentle loving ways and how he held and comforted me when I was frightened or sad. My favorite Shakespeare quote is: “This above all to thine own self be true.” Thank you Dad…it’s served me well.

Although I had a good intellectual understanding of our family dynamics, it was not until I did some deep inner work that I was able to release the loss I felt upon my father’s passing. My mother, who was 5 years my father’s senior, lived another 25 years, never releasing her fears or her need to control.

While studying counseling psychology at California State University in Chico, CA, I exchanged sessions with fellow students. As an intern at the Human Awareness Institute workshops, a Life Mastery Teacher trainee at Hartmont Institute, and a hypnotherapy student at the Palo Alto School of Hypnotherapy, I experienced a variety of therapeutic modalities including Hypnosis, Neuro-Linguistic Programming, Voice Dialog, Guided Visualizations, Focusing, Role Playing, and Transactional Analysis to name a few. 

While becoming proficient in these various techniques, students work through their own personal issues and gain experience working with both private clients and groups. I personally love using teaching tales (reminiscent of the famous medical hypnotist and psychiatrist Milton H. Erickson) and drawing on my vast and varied life experience.  I  also use Tapping or EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) and my innate ability to read and channel energy in working with clients. Additionally, as an avid student of Spirituality, I incorporate the Universal Spiritual Principles, such as the Law of Attraction, into my work.                   


Welcome to My World!

I’m Elizabeth Powers, and for the next few weeks, I’ll be sharing with you vignettes from my life…experiences that have helped to create the person that I am today. My intention is that you might glean for yourself some useful tidbits from the valuable lessons I’ve learned on my journey. The trip hasn’t always been easy, but it’s definitely been worth every moment of the ride.

I often feel as though I’ve lived many different lifetimes within the years I’ve thus far been given. If variety is the spice of life, then my experiences definitely qualify as rich and flavorful. Even the distasteful ones have been ingested as prescribed, and like bitter herbs, have served to help me grow stronger.

Some of the stories will be told in writing and others through video as some are easier to write and others to speak. I want to get to know you and have you know me from the warmth of my heart to the depth of my soul. I encourage comments and questions. I’d love to interact with you and will respond to your inquiries with love.

In love, joy and abundance,